Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Abusing the “I” in iPhone!

Remember when the most annoying thing in the restaurant was the screaming child next to you?  Now, thanks to technology many adults can act like children too.  Unfortunately, there isn’t a parent there to take them outside and reprimand them for their obnoxious behavior.  Don’t get me wrong, I love my cell phone as much as the next person, but I don't love having my dining experience interrupted by ringing phones and having to listen to people have extended conversations like they’re sitting in their living rooms.  What is so important that it can’t wait an hour or less?  And, if it is that important, shouldn’t you be rushing to the hospital to check on the accident victim - not laughing your way through dessert with a spoon in one hand and your cell in the other?  If you really can’t live one hour without your phone, put it on vibrate and leave it in your lap or back pocket or on the table if you must.  And then go outside or in the bathroom to answer it.  Or better yet, eat at home.  I’ve seen a few restaurants and beauty salons that have a “no cell phone” policy.  I hope this trend catches on.  Considering France only banned cigarettes in restaurants a few years ago, I’m thinking I might be the one eating at home more often.  Thank god for Picard!

13 comments:

Karin (an alien parisienne) said...

Well, hello, Ms. Amy. :) I hope all is well with you. I'm finally creeping back into the online world, sticking my toes in, deciding if I want to swim laps or just have a little refreshing dip. My computer equipment may make the decision for me! :) So far, so good, though, knock on wood.

I love the title of this post. :) Yes, change is coming to Paris restos and not just in the form of smartphones, but also in the form of staggered dining, and apparently the use of frozen foods (like from Picard! lol) instead of freshly-prepared foods has been on the increase even in better dining establishments. It's kind of sad. With technological progress comes the loss of things that people once held sacred, like calm, quiet dining with a freshly-prepared meal over an entire evening. It's true: there is a time and place for phones. Now, eating in McDo's over burgers and fries? I kind of expect that in a fast food place people might talk on a cell. But in a nicer place, a sit-down resto? Yeah, it would seem that people would have the good sense to not talk on a cell. I mean, good grief! Send a text! (lol)

Glad to see you are keeping things lively in your neck of the bloghood, babe. Hope we can connect soon!

Karin

Notre Vie Juteuse said...

i am so with you on that. We don't take our phones into restarants with us, leave them in the car or at home. Seriously, 10 years ago we didn't have that instant in touch with someone life. We had answering machines. We saw a couple at a restaurant and they never spoke to each other, they both were texting on their phones. Drives me crazy. Put it away and have a nice quiet evening out.

Lost In Cheeseland said...

People are increasingly self-involved and technology only worsens this situation. I think in our relationships we have to set rules right from the beginning about what kinds of technological interruptions we're willing to accept and which we are not!

Brenna said...

My french professor in college once told me, with total conviction, that cell phones were the downfall of society. He says that we are so into our own banal conversations, that we talk more and more about nothing. I agree! It's refreshing because here in France, I rarely use my cell phone.

Dina said...

Are you kidding me? Thank goodness for the cell -- this way, no one cares about my 3 screaming kids anymore! It's made parenting at a restaurant so much more relaxing... ;)

Phillippa said...

I concur! I was recently at the dentist and on the RER, respectively, where people were carrying on their conversations loudly and indiscreetly for a really long time, complete with the annoying 16eme'ish laugh. Max was with me at the dentist and I handed him MyPhone, volume turned up on his game.

Kalee said...

I'm having to learn ways to get people off of the phone. Take yesterday when my mother called my husband's cell because she couldn't reach me on mine because I had left it at home (this is something she does often and it drives me nuts). It was nothing important, and when asked what I was doing I explained that we were at the grocery store and heading to a coffee date. It does not matter where we are, if I answer, she wants to talk. Which I know is partly my fault, but I answer because of my grandmama's ill health. I think I'm just going to have to wing it though, hit reject, let it go to voicemail and then check it.

When we lived in England we didn't really have a cell (just a prepaid one that we never put minutes on, only carried it for emergencies), and loved not having to answer to it. I think it's time to institute that again. Now if only I can get my FIL to quit texting about the weather a handful of times a day!

Kalee said...

Oh, and can we talk about talking on a cell while driving? It's illegal pretty much everywhere now, and for good reason! I can't even tell you how many times I've nearly been run over by someone talking on their phone while driving around a parking lot. As in, they have to slam on their brakes to avoid killing me. My husband finds me amusing though because I throw my hands up and yell something about getting off the f-ing cell. Ladylike? Non. But oh so satisfying.

I also don't think it's just cell phones in restaurants. I can't tell you how many times I've been privy to what clearly should be a private conversation or is simply mundane but loud. People seem to think that everyone and their mother wants to know their business. And yes, I'm well aware I've rambled on and sound like a crotchety old lady. Eh.

Amy75 said...

Karin, Thank you! So glad you’re back in the virtual world and can’t wait to see you in the real world soon. Love your thoughts on the changes in France. Need more staggered dining options, besides Hippo – not that I’m knocking it. Love any place w/fries √† volont√© .

NVJ, So true! How in the world did we manage to survive all those years without cell phones in the restaurant? Even the crazy in “When a Stranger Calls” managed to track down the babysitter where ever she went and that was wayyyy before cell phones.

LiC, I know! Good point re setting boundaries. On the metro I get elbowed in the rib cage every time my neighbor reaches in his pocket to send/respond to a text or searches through her purse as her phone rings, and rings, and rings. Oh, and the “allo, allo, tu m’entends?”

Brenna, Maybe I’m turning into the Unabomber, but I think your professor was on to something. I know, I rarely use mine here either. I sometimes forget to even turn on the ringer bc I work from home and my husband is usually the only one to call/text me.

D, Ha! Your boys are little angels. Plus, you leave them at home when you eat at the good places.

Phil, Ohhhh, please let me borrow Max. I’m going to take him to dinner with me – with two fully charged iPhones on standby. Btw, I laughed out loud (13eme/Cali laugh) when I read your 16eme comment. Hilarious!

Kalee, I’m so sorry to hear about your grandma! I totally get it. Plus, with the time difference my family never calls so really I’m complaining but I’ve not been put in the situation. When my MIL calls, I swear it is always at dinner or lunchtime. I think now that they’re retired they eat earlier so after she’s good and fed, she likes to call her son to help her digest. Jeez, I’m mean. Hopefully, she hasn’t enrolled in English classes. Do you plan on moving back to Europe any time soon?

Amy75 said...

Kaylee, Just saw your second comment. We must be long lost sisters. I told my husband I'm going to start carrying eggs in my pocket while out to throw at the next car who almost runs me over while I'm crossing the street. I'm sure you saw the texting/fountain lady, and the kid who fell on the subway tracks in NY while playing a vidoe game. Oh and the plastic surgeon that drove off a cliff while twittering. I'm total crotchety old lady. I'm scared at how horribly mean I'll be when I really am in my 80s :)

Aditha said...

I totally agree... I remembered a woman just near me in the bus using her cell to tell her friend how sick she was with all the details ! Amazing how some people can be without any decency !

Amy75 said...

Hi Aditha! Thanks for leaving a comment :) Your blog is great. Been looking for some written in French. So true re the conversations on the bus. I've heard some doozies too.

Aditha said...

Thanks Amy ! And thanks for your great blog too !!